While I was in Mexico last week, a reader got her hands on a rare copy of London, (available again this Winter, 2024 at BoldStrokesBooks.com) which was my second novel, and was shocked at the sex scenes. And not in a good way. She came for me all guns blazing because she saw two of …

I’ve gotten a tidal wave of letters in response to my last post, and since I’m off to the Mexican Riviera this week, I thought this one might be perfect. Have you ever travelled to Europe and wondered why everyone looked at you differently, and not always in a good way? Read on… Dear Go-To …

So, some of the Tomboy Inkslinger OG fans know that I used to write an advice column called “G0-To Gay.” Right? Both of you? Kidding. Well, it seems word has gotten around and in the last few months, I’ve gotten more than a few real-life relationship questions from people who are hoping to nudge their …

Let’s catch up with a few of the burning questions from my inbox and DM’s, shall we? I’ll try not to make you nod off into your whiskey. Also…I’ll say it forever because it’s true. I’m not nearly as interesting as my characters. You’ve been warned. Are there ever scenes that are emotionally difficult to …

We’ve all been there. Stuck at a boozy wedding or Christmas party where we feel like an exhibit stolen from a pride parade. Where you’re just the bog standard lesbian couple or lone masc trying to find the shortest route to the catering table when BAM! Some balding straight guy in a blue polyester suit, …

Every once in a while I’ll address some personal questions sent to me on social media, because apparently, burning questions about a forest weirdo slinging ink in a tiny house are keeping people up at night. But the questions I really love to answer are the ones about writing…The bones of writing, how the ink …

Ladies, Butches, Gents, and Non-Bianary Peeps, I think we can all agree that there are still some gnarly misconceptions floating around out there about lesbians, and your friendly neighborhood Tomboyinkslinger is about to take a leather-wrapped jackhammer to three of them. But first, a friendly disclaimer. I’m speaking about my community as I see it, …

Let’s start with the stats, shall we? According to a 2022 study by NYC’s Columbia University, 95% of heterosexual men “always or almost always” orgasmed during sex, while when asked the same question, only 25% of women (identifying as straight) said the same. Take a moment to absorb the enormity of that…only one-quarter of mainstream …

This week I’ve been thinking about the concept of regret, and how different that is for women, especially women in their thirties, forties and beyond. When people talk about the shadowy regrets that surface just under the dark water of age, it’s usually about the predictable things; the “I wish I’d gone to Paris for …

Let’s talk about triggers. When I’m writing, I try not to think about anyone’s potential reactions to how I tell the story. I let the characters speak and try like hell to keep up. But inevitably, some scenes prove triggering for readers. I get lots of colorful comments, negative reviews, and occasionally the virtual middle …